Many a time, we'd have seen videos, movies and read or heard stories about how people got married, have kids and grow old happily until their old flame appears.
And that is when a big destabilizing factor hits the relationship and rocks the entire foundation of a happy (or at least, as what the story tells us it is happy) marriage.
Logged into FB and saw my hubby's status. Felt a little surprised. But after deliberating, how true it would have been. Then I thought to myself, one should never look back if one believes that he/she has found the right one.
We've gotta bear in mind that the right one is not really the same as the 'absolutely perfect one'. Nobody is perfect. Even though we have friends who are seemingly perfect, but they too have their own doubts, insecurities and things that will pull them down. And being husband & wife is not just about trying to be two people joined under oath and a silly cert stating that we are married.
Marriage too, for me, is not absolutely all about procreation and nothing else.
But then and there again, when we have made our choices, we have already accepted each other for their own flaws as much as we are in for the 80% of the criteria we really want. Unless it is a match made wedding which is uncommon but brings more excitement (according to my friend!).
After all these, I guess that I should not even bother looking back. Even though I know that looking back will only make me feel sillier because of all those insane decisions made, those that we just never thought thoroughly.
Sometimes, the past may sting your heart. Remembering the times you were ditched, stood up, those days you were naive and silly that you were taken advantage of (emotionally) and those stupid days you spent waiting for that one phone call that never came or those empty promises that sounded like clothes flapping in the air (which does not matter anyway).
Reminiscing the stupidity of our younger days, it might make us sad or happy. But for me, I am determined to make my days to come something worth remembering. Heck, who will bother if we had a bad past or an extremely good one? Life still goes on!
Babe SCH, we took a vow, saying that we DO want to be in this marriage. We so wanted to start this life journey together. We just want to have an exclusive You&I as Husband&Wife life and whatever life throws at us, it is no longer about you, or me. It is gonna be US :)
Just wanna let you know that I have made the best choice in life and I am happy everyday, knowing the fact that you'd be the last person I see before I sleep and the first I see when I wake up.
I love you!
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