Ever thought for a moment that we've not been lying to people who means a lot to us? Or probably believed that in your entire life, you have not lied?
Look no further than yourself when you accuse someone else of lying.
Years and years of being a human being teaches us all to say what we know we can say and reserve some other thoughts to ourselves. Rather than just classifying it as 'my own thoughts, i have my rights to it' and keep fighting for your own innocence won't help. Even a young child knows how to lie!
I remember once, a young child back then, my friend appeared in school with a lot of cuts and bruises. When asked about how SHE (yes, being from a girl's school, you won't normally see such a sight) got all those, but she told her teacher "saya jatuh dari bukit semasa ambil air dari pili atas bukit". And at that time, we never thought children would lie.
As i looked back, I realized that this friend of mine had all the while been keeping silent about the domestic abuse she suffered since she was born. Always with the excuse of 'selalu jatuh bukit' or 'tersepak batu semasa lari' although once she did demonstrate how she got a big cut, she fell in school! But i knew (my poor friends, we were too young we didn't talk about it at all and most of them don't even remember her now!)
I wonder how this friend is doing. But anyway, lets go back to the idea of "we all lie too, seriously!"
In our everyday lives, be it school, college, work, back at home or anywhere else, we just cannot control ourselves to stop lying. Remember those times we reserved our thoughts about that one gangster-looking man walking around with a parang, and when he talked to us, we just replied with a smile and a 'heh-heh' laugh? Oh, yeah.. not everyone's from Johor Bahru. Yeah, you won't want to wind down your car window and give an 'international sign' to them. You might be torched to death by that 'i don't know who he is but he sure looks like a road bully to me'.
We lie to our parents, especially when we were young and needed money. Some needed it more desperately than others, some just plainly had rich parents who gave them endless supply they needn't lie. But point being, remember those times you conned your parents of that extra 50 sen? Or asked them if you could get some more pocket money to buy this this and that only to end up spending on things you know will displease them? And then later, 'pakat' with your siblings to keep from your parents?
Or those times your boss screams at you and tells you off, doesn't give you face at all and expects you to smile and thank him for scolding you? In your heart you already feel like jumping across and strangling his double-chinned neck and kick him in the nuts so hard he can never reproduce, but you just have to bite your lips and show that you actually feel thankful. Don't you think that keeping that in your heart is equally as good as using your facial expression, verbal communication and whatever not communications we human beings are capable of emitting, to just LIE our way out of a situation?
We lie. FULLSTOP. Whether it is a white lie, serious lie, black lie etc. Come on, the media lies too! Advertisements lie too. And who does all these? Normal human beings like you and me. We know that it is human nature to lie. We KNOW what people like, what people want to hear, what will make him or her tick and what will really make them interested. But too bad, nobody shares the same opinion.
But the entire bottomline is this. Key to survival and being liked on this planet is to LIE. And don't you think that your best friend who appears so good to you may actually be secretly planning your downfall in the future? Nobody knows.
Trust is something hard to come by. So do not expect people to give you his or her trust but rather, give them their needed trust. I'll come to that topic soon...
Lies are lies. Yes, they can never be the truth. Half-truth is also considered a fib, a lie. But we are not given the full autonomy to decide if lies are indeed good or bad. Doctors sometimes have to lie too, especially if the patient has already gone through a lot. When you see someone who have just lost a loved one, you will go up to them and tell them lies like, "I know that your *whoever* is already with God" when the truth is, how sure are we? It is still a lie nevertheless because it is considered 'baseless'. Baseless, especially for non-believers and people who are bent on finding out something only by experiencing or seeing it happen. For me, i rather go with, 'my condolences. your *whoever* will be upset to see you so sad' which sounds more humanly. But at the end of the day, is that statement true? We will never know.
And it is still considered a lie, even though i hate to admit it. We should use ONE yardstick for all things in life. But with randomness in life, we are forced to use different yardsticks for different situations. And by nature, human beings want the best for themselves. We are born selfish. Therefore we cannot...
Bottomline: We all lie. Really.
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